Please restore my faith in female friendships because right now I have zero.
I strongly believe you can try as hard as you want, but you can never have strong female friendships in the presence of your male counterparts. It is impossible.
You can put up a show all you want on social media about the importance of female friendships. But once you’re in a social setting with both female and male pals, it all goes to shit.
Women want to be noticed and heard by men. Men, on the other hand, don’t give a flying fuck unless the fuck is pointed towards their vagina or there is some sort of strategic importance. Women want male validation. It’s the ugly fucking truth, and promise to God, everyone’s thinking it but no one’s saying it.
It takes actual, real-time, conscious thinking IN that very moment (read: social setting) to realise you are giving into male validation and neglecting your fellow female pals.
Kia karain? What should we do?
I’ll be 100% honest. I love male attention and validation. Why wouldn’t I? It's satisfying. You know why though? Because patriarchy. It has been entrenched in our society and culture that WE, women, view a male’s acceptance as equal to gods. Its absolutely fucking bonkers. And only AFTER we recognize THIS can we fucking work towards a way to fight it off.
Recognizing my love for male attention and validation, I fight it by doubling down and going a thousand miles to make sure my female strangers, acquaintances and friends are heard. Why? Because it is basic fucking manners. You DON’T have to CHOOSE males over females, you just have to learn to treat them BOTH EQUALLY. You don’t have to STOP listening to men, you just have to listen to women in the SAME WAY.
And do you know when you start doing this? When you have, repeatedly, been at the receiving end of it.
